To the community of Fallbrook and the adults concerned; My name is Gabriella Pedo and I am a 16 year old activist who campaigns for the awareness of children and adolescents struggling with misunderstood mental illnesses.
Specifically, depression and bipolar disorder which tend to show up in teens my age and older.
It is proven that 1.8 million adolescents and young adults suffer from severe depression, and up to 3.4 million of these people are already expected to suffer from bipolar disorder. These specific illnesses include very sensitive topics such as suicide, drugs, domestic and sexual abuse.
The “easy way out” of depression and bipolar disorder is to numb the body with substances. These include marijuana, alcohol, and nicotine. I am only a valid source on this topic because I have suffered from both depression and bipolar disorder in my household. I watched a series of events as a little girl, going to the hospital after school, listening and watching the traumatic cries, until I wondered what was going to happen next. The sadness, anger, hurt, tragedy and hopelessness are very visible and it’s absolutely heartbreaking to watch.
The best way to help these people get help is to listen first. It can be difficult and frustrating to help someone who is dealing with these illnesses, but it is better to help them than to face other consequences. You can never automatically assume the harm someone else has suffered. It makes the person feel worthless and like you are putting them down.
Not many people are fully aware of what teenagers my age suffer from and parents / adults seem to misinterpret this all the time. These specific age groups feel that their parents do not care about their well-being and mental health due to neglect or neglect of treatment. About 12% to 26% of parents said they did not want to help their child get treatment for bipolar disorder and depression.
Groups of young people who face these illnesses feel trapped in their own homes, constantly wanting to leave to get away from their own ailments. As a 16 year old girl who does not suffer from these illnesses, I sometimes find it difficult to reach out. I could never imagine how they feel, and as a person who has close friends and loved ones who suffer from these illnesses, do your child a favor and make sure he is well.
However, adults caring for adolescents with these mental illnesses tend to be unaware of what is going on. Problems start to crop up, such as mood swings, bad behavior, and phases that all young adults and teens go through as they grow older. When these problems start to worsen, a parent may feel guilty and overwhelmed. This guilt can be extremely hard on parents, especially when it creates a questionable relationship with the child. A household’s income, insurance and stability all affect how the child obtains help. Depending on whether the family is rich or poor, therapy for someone can cost as much as $ 60 to $ 120 per session.
The denial that a parent goes through also has a huge impact on the situation. It is difficult for a parent to understand that these children could be on the verge of suicide due to their illness and therefore do not know how to accept or help them. From my perspective growing up, I saw her and my mom in pain and worry and the disappointing emotions that follow all of these series of events. I can also say that my family itself had to cope with limited income which made it difficult for my loved one to support themselves.
If I understand your point correctly, denying help to your child is unacceptable. Once these children are diagnosed, the parents go into immediate denial, but will that ever justify your child in pain and you not helping them? Real help from a trained professional is the only way for your child to get better. School counselors and wellness centers are both available at the school to assist you.
Getting in and out of hospitals and even seeing the police once a week is something that could happen if you don’t take care of your child’s health. If you are not financially stable enough for your child to be well looked after, talk to your insurance. I’m sure a representative will be able to get help for your child. If that is not enough, the easiest solution would be to be there for your child. Listening to you and respecting their point of view and their struggles will help the child more than you might think.
If you neglect this kind of care as a parent, the child will feel himself worthless knowing that his parents do not care about his well-being. As a tutor, your child is also attentive and sees you as a role model. As the child grows, he begins to believe that his behaviors are normal and acceptable for him to reproduce. An adult is old enough to get help and should communicate with his children about what they are dealing with, so that it does not affect the future and the health of the child.
The overall goal of mental illness awareness is for adults and parents to misunderstand the groups of young people who suffer from depression and bipolar disorder. You can just take action by making sure your child is okay and asking if they need to ask for more help. People who receive help for their illness and receive treatment have a much more positive and better way of coming to terms with their illness rather than avoiding it and not knowing how to deal with it. If the child refuses to get help, just make sure they know you are there for them. A simple hug, a smile or an “I’m here for you” could save your child’s life. It’s hard to understand their point of view, but it’s harder to deal with a loss.