When the river fire started, fear was already on high alert with health issues, increased stress and tensions, uncertainty and structures collapsing. Some people think we are back to normal or close. This one has a different meaning.
Savannah has the experience of being a very sensitive person. Much of this life has been spent learning how to deal with this sensitivity. Part of the strategies was to become a spiritual psychotherapist, still paying a lot of attention to the sacred, refusing until recently to be anchored on the planet and living out of the country for many years. Still, there’s no escaping this trait and you shouldn’t even try it.
I recently heard an interesting interview about Sensitives. Their relationship with the vagus nerve, nervous system, and brain structure is different. In previous societies, sensitive people were highly regarded for their ability to sense danger before others. Yet when danger and fear are frequently on high alert, it can be easy to exhaust or burn out the nervous system. In these times, it is essential that we all know how to manage our nervous system, but no more so than for the sensitive ones.
This one spent a lot of resources trying to get rid of the sensitivity first, then trying to fix it, and finally surrendering and allowing it while handling the impact. Ways to navigate an active nervous system are deep breathing, alternating breathing, martial arts or yoga, meditation or other mindfulness practice, time spent in nature, being barefoot on the ground, slowing down and be very deliberate with the activity. Reading spiritual or other uplifting literature, spending time with like-minded people can all help calm nerves. Another suggestion to help relieve overwhelm is to submerge yourself in natural water. I know the water has been my salvation.
Yet one of the biggest fears to overcome after giving up special relationships is the fear of survival or fear for the body. Nothing like a fire to activate it. It may seem like an impossible mission to overcome such primitive fears, but what I am discovering is that these very fears can become an invaluable gateway directly into the arms of the divine. Nothing motivated him more than having very primitive fears of survival. Now it is easy to devote yourself daily to remembering our true nature.
Please take the time to be with what is happening in the body. Don’t blame or blame when a trauma occurs in the system. The first tendency will be to push it away with some distraction, to draw our attention away from the discomfort. Yet, if we have the courage to allow these primitive sensations to arise in the body, if we welcome them rather than pushing them underground as was usually necessary in our childhood, we will discover an ever greater space. This is my direct experience.
Recognizing how much learning to be at peace with sensitivity has “cost” me, I feel determined to both normalize this trait and support the 20% (or more) of people with this trait. A trait that was once celebrated is now often downplayed or even avoided. I have often heard that you are too sensitive.
A friend commented that empathetic / sensitive people can be just as bad as narcissists for needing attention. The interview spoke about it. Sensitive people feel such a need to control their environment so as not to become overly stimulated. While they can be the most loving, kind, and compassionate people, until they learn to deal with this trait, they can also be very controlling.
I want to honor each of you who offer us your sensitivity. It’s an amazing gift because rudeness and aggression are on the increase. Please know that you don’t need to be fixed because you are not broken. My sensitive male friend told me that sensitivity equals love, and therefore is a superpower. Sounds good to me!
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